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Sunday, 6 July 2008

Then I saw him standing there.

Many years ago I was the witness,(matron of honour),at a friend's marriage, to a chap I had introduced her to. There were two single men also attending the wedding. One was a M. Ross, Esq. and the other was DT, (Darling Trubes).
As I had introduced my friend to her soon to be husband, she was hell-bent on returning the compliment.
Still smarting from recently being divorced, I really had no intention of diving headlong into another relationship so soon, despite my friend's bungled efforts to 'match-make'!

We arrived at the Registry Office, and then.....

I saw him standing there!
Well..My heart went boom,
When I crossed the room,
and..He held his hand in mine...

We proceded with the Marriage ceremony and every time I turned around to check that the five children were ok, (my three, and my friend's two), all I could see was DT siiting in the centre of the children, with a smiling face and twinkling eyes.
The children behaved impecably throughout the ceremony. It must have been D.T's calming influence because they didn't move....Just too good to be true!

After the 'nuptuals' we proceeded to the local hostery for the reception.
DT offered me and the three girls, (aged 9, 7 and 4yrs), a lift in his car, which I gratefully accepted.
The children scrambled into the back and I sat in the front alongside DT.

All was quiet on the back seat apart from a bit of giggling and whispering.
Suddenly a little voice 'piped up' 'Well, if she marries Mr Ross she would be called Diana Ross and we could be 'The Supremes'! Another little voice chipped in, 'Well I want her to marry Mr.DT. because 'Aunty M' said he's got a much better job and lots more money than Mr.Ross....He's a much better catch and better looking too!.... What was the expression....

'From the mouths of babes, comes words of wisdom'.....

'Open up ground and swallow me now', I thought, as I turned crimson with embarrassment. Needless to say DT was highly amused and took all this in good fun....I really didn't expect to see him again...

However, a Month later at the Local Womens's Institute Dance, to which he'd invited me, (without The Supremes, I may add), who, were tucked up in bed with Grandma baby sitting.. we toodled off for a sumptuous Banquet and Disco at a wonderful local hotel....

Oh, we danced through the night,
we held each other tight,
Then, before too long,
I fell in love with him,
Well, I've never danced with another,
Since, I saw him standing there.

Three weeks after the WI Dance DT came around for Sunday Roast, we had been dating in between time and DT used to, some times call around early evening, and would invariably end up at the table playing board games with the children whilst I prepared supper..... However, Back to the Sunday Roast!

Everyone was sitting nicely around the table, and as I carried in the dinner, 'up piped' another little voice saying...'When are you going to marry my Mum'?

I nearly dropped the Roast Chicken, and again, blushed crimson in embarrassment....'Oh ground please, please open up and swallow me', again, I cringed.
Then, another little voice added, 'Look at Mum, she's gone all red'....

Again all this was taken in good humour by DT.
I really expected him to do a 'runner ', and join The Foreign Legion...
Bearing in mind DT was the eternal batchelor and was never in any rush to get married too any of his former girl friends.

Five years later we were married. Although, all the while, our relationship was getting stronger, DT, was never a man to rush into things, he wanted the three girls to accept him and also, I needed time to recover from an acrimonious divorce, which was, in some ways, like a bereavement.

During DT's Speech at the wedding he raised his glass to me and the three girls and said how happy he was, because he had fallen in love, not only with me, but, with the 'whole package', from when he first met us.

The whole package included One large Alsation Dog called Victor, A Guinea Pig called Gilbert, a one eyed Cat called Nelson, Two Goldfish and a White Mouse called Ben..... I guess he married the whole menagerie, (package).

We have just celebrated 20 years of Happy Marriage, thanks to my little 'Matchmakers'!


  1. Well congratulations to you!! If I had known I would have sent a card ... or at least an e-card ... or something.. *winks*

    Great story!!

  2. when is that going to happen to ME??? Seriously, how wonderful for you both and congratulations on 20 happy years. May you have many many many more!

  3. congrats. you get less for armed robbery.

  4. Life after divorce.

    An uplifting tale for this morning for once.

    Thank you, Trubes.

  5. That was lovely Di...thank you for sharing that sounds so enchanting and i understand a bit more about the woman behind the blog...DT does sound like a wonderful man and i have found more respect for him through this as well...enjoy your day, my dear friend...

  6. That's nice Trubes. Lucky you!

    Grandad and I met in a Chinese restaurant somewhere in the South Seas one Friday evening. He was giving a farewell dinner for his secretary who was a good mate of mine and who put me on the guest list. The rest, as they say, is history! We've now got 22 years next month on the clock and never a dull moment.

  7. There is a bad person who lives inside me.

    That bad person wanted to leave a comment about DT enjoying a Sunday Roast, saying "I didn't know that DT was a professional footballer...."

    Fortunately, I've surpressed the bad person for long enough to say what a nice story this is.

    Oh - and I heard Paul McCartney sing this lovely song when he played Anfield in June - he was much better than I had expected.

  8. Lovely story trubes, and tis' true, love at first sight i soften the best.

    10th wedding anni for me and the Tuscana this year. How time whizzes.

  9. What a lovely story Trubes. I do envy it but so happy it happened to you xx

    I can't give you congratulations though, as if you've bested a particularly difficult exam. No. I will simply say... you lucky sod ;-)))

    May you have many more.

  10. well- that is a very great story of true romance. Congratulations on 20 years together.

  11. That's a good story Trubes - not at all soppy as you thought!

    As EK says, it brightens up a lot more than a day!

    Kids laughter kids comments kids jokes - you can't beat it...!

  12. Hello Mutley: Thank you for your kind wishes:

    Hi Leslie:
    The unexpected always happens when you least expect it! If you hear a galloping of hooves, just look over your shoulder it could just be your prince on his dashing white charger!
    Thanks for your warm wishes xx.

    Yo Globus:
    I think DT may just agree with your sentiments!

    Hi Electro:
    Glad I brightened your day xx

    Hi Daisy: Thank you too for your kind words. DT is a good man, like us all he has foibles but he's been a good husband too me and a wonderful step- dad to the three we have our three lovely grandchildren, he's happier than ever, never missing the opportunity to enter into lots of fun with them.xx

    Hi Grumpy Granny: How romantic you meeting GG in the south seas.
    I wish you would have your own site as I'm sure, like myself all my chums would like to know more about you and your other half!
    Nice to talk to you again.

    Hello Mr Lakelander; You are awful, but I do like you...
    Lucky you seeing the Paul McCartney
    We were away in Antibes at the time but watched on TV, it was a terrific performance.xx

    Hi Tuscan Thanks for your kind words and congrats.on your 10 years with the Tuscana, hope your doing something special.xx

    Hello Pippy; Thanks again for your kind sentiments...You know I'm a great believer in fate..As I have just been saying to Leslie youjst never know what's around the corner. Listen out for the galloping hooves!xx

    Hello Tarfers my friend:
    True Romance indeed! True love doesn't always run smoothly though. DT will vouch that, since I've been on steroids he's been wearing a tin hat.xx

    Hello Scrobs; Thanks for your kind words, eloquently put, as ever.
    You'reright about the sounds of 'kids laughter' jokes etc...can't beat it...Wait until your grandchildren come along...wonderful fun..and you can give them back at the end of the day.xx

  13. Thank You for visiting me :-)

    Such a lovely story, thank you for sharing :-)

  14. What a fabulous story. I am gigling at thinking of you nearly dropping the chicken! And many, many congrats, my friend.

  15. Hello Cherrypie and welcome to my site.
    I have enjoyed reading your site and often read your comments on Welshcakes site too.
    I think I've got new blogging chum,so pleased to meet you!


  16. Hi Welshcakes; I literally had the chicken sliding off the seving dish into the dog's mouth (Victor our large Alsation). Fortunately I managed to slide it back on again. Victor was so disappointed. He had some dinner later complete with roast potatoes an carrots and turnip etc, not the dreaded sprouts though.
    Whenever I put sprouts in his dish he would meticulously lift each sprout out and lay them in a circle around his dish.
    Wonderful Dog! Father of 13 Alsation pups too.....Obviously didn't need his sprouts!


  17. I love a happy ending!...congrats.

  18. Hi Thud: Thanks for your comments; Yes when I got divorced I had resigned myself to the life of a single parent, just raising my girls and working hard. Happily along came DT,and the rest you know about. Fortunately the 'girls' hadn't reached the 'roaring teens', It may had been a different ending had they done so!


  19. Trubes - me auld puddin'

    Great story. Isnt it amazing - what's around the corner? Eh?

    Dealing with life's disapointments can be tough - and with life's harder and difficult moments. But hope springs eternal.

    20 years eh?

    So that makes you about 92?


  20. Hello Mr Pineapples:
    You naughty boy, I shall ignore that comment as I like you.xx
    Mind you, some days I feel as if I'm 90.
    Today I am feeling quite young, until, I look in the mirror and see my Mama's face looking back at me!
    I must say my Mama was very disapproving when I divorced my first husband, but when she eventually met DT she was delighted and never missed an opportunity by, 'putting her foot in it',and calling DT by my first husband's name....
    Mothers eh, what would you do without them?


  21. Hang on!

    I happened to quite fancy your mamma...

    Keep up the good work

  22. Well, my first visit here via cherry pie and i was transfixed! Wonderful account! We too have been married for 20 years, June 3rd 2008 and we too have alsations in our home! Eeeeeeeeeh by gum, small world eh!

    Will add you to my blogroll if that's OK, sounds fun here!

  23. Mr Pineapples:
    You are a tinker and I still like you and love your site, willbe going across later so watch out!

  24. Hello Denise and welcome to the world of trubes and thank you for your kind comments.
    Congratulations too on your 20th Anniversary...My how time flies!
    Our Alsation Victor was truly a wonderful Dog, he lived until he was 14yrs old.
    We can't have a dog now because DT developed an allergy to them a few years ago. Strangely enough, he's not allergic to our lovely cat Chloe.
    I've only recently been visiting Cherrypie's site and am enjoying that too.
    I am quite a novice to blogging and have a lot to learn.
    At present I am trying to find a course locally, which may help me...
    There is so much I want to do but don't know how to do it!

    Bye for now,

  25. OH I love your cute and darling....but you know what I love most about you the way you told it....the Sunday roast, the "mum" using registra instead of brings back wonderful memories of how my mum use to speak,and terms to which I was brought up. Those around me now have know idea half the time about what I am saying....thank you for sharing...

    what part of the Island did you say your family memeber lived...I know you said south....but do you mean close to Victoria?

  26. Hello Smalltown rn: Welcome to The world of Trubes and thank you for your kind comments.
    I'm not sure where my Son-in-Law's Aunt lives on the Island, but I will find out and let you know.
    I love your Blog by the way, it is so interesting with wonderful pictures and dscriptions of Vancouver Island...lucky you and family living in such a beautiful place.


  27. Thanks for visiting my blog! Have read a few of your posts and really like them. Memory Lane! true romance & had a great time reading about the unmentionables!

  28. what a wonderful story. I'm crying already - and that's not just my hormones!

  29. I came in to tell you thank you for the visit and stayed for the wedding...well, two weddings and a funeral (divorce) and howled the whole way through...your little tykes were bound and determined on this one! And Beatles music to boot...ah, how wonderful a post!
    ps, as you say, I'll be back lol

  30. Flowerpot Thankyou for your kind comments and welcome to the World of Trubes;
    Please don't cry, it is my aim to make people happy not sad....
    My hormones have all packed their bags and left me, I'm pleased to say, after, being half crazy for half of my life!


  31. Hi Sandi and welcome to my site;
    I seem to have made quite a few new friends along the way today...marvellous!

    Being a Liverpool lass the Beatles music surges through my veins like a vintage Champagne.
    I was a teenager in the sixties and every song they wrote or sang has a particular significance in my life...wonderful days.
    I saw them perform live at the Cavern Club in Liverpool several times. I used to work in large City bank and would go down to The Cavern in my lunchtime to watch loads of famous Liverpool groups there...Golden days!

    Gosh, I must be getting old with all these memories!


  32. Wow what a great story..True love indeed!! Congratulations on your 20th anniversay.

    Thank you for coming over to look at my blog and the great comment you left..Thomas is 3 and was fine when is mum left, just got to get through the first night!!

  33. Hello to Anne in Oxfordshire and welcome to my site;
    Yes true love indeed...Like everybody else, things don't always run smoothly, particularly when there were three teenager girls and a very hormonal mother in the same household.

    Was a good job DT took up golf,around that time!
    Nevermind, all part of life's complicated pattern!

    Life is quieter now they've all left home.

    The eldest Daughter and husband who lives in
    Surrey and are the Parents of Molly and Freddie, invade us from time to time.
    This is always great fun but needless to say very tiring.

    I do hope you had a good night with Thomas.


  34. Bout time you came in and joined us at Bloghounds, Trubes.

  35. Oh Trubes, I thought I'd already commented :-( Such a lovely, lovely beginning. When it's the real thing there is no real hurry eh? And I expect he wanted to court you properly too. Sounds like you brought your girls up right too! Full of it! Brilliant.

  36. Hi Lilith Thanks for your comments:
    I like to think I did a good job in raising my 'girls'.
    They bring such joy to our lives.
    We have three gorgeous grandchildren too and another one due next February so we're all thrilled.
    I tink it's about time i spun another yarn...just waiting for inspiration!



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